Daniel Goleman and his book ‘Emotional Intelligence’

You should probably read the book Emotional Intelligence: Why it can matter more than IQ by Daniel Goleman. The information included within can help parents, teachers, people in business, those interested in leadership, and those wishing to respond more calmly to the world around them.

Emotional Intelligence 2 - Daniel Goleman(Emotional Intelligence writer Daniel Goleman)

An early point that Goleman makes in Emotional Intelligence is that the three qualities of self-control, zeal, and persistence are more predictive in the success of people as they work through life than the standard metrics of IQ scores, standardized tests, or some of the aptitude tests used to gauge entry for students looking to gain admittance to college. Goleman suggests a potential path for teaching and reinforcing emotional learning from early education through high school, should school systems wish to adopt it.

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Emotional Intelligence is broken into five main sections. As you can surmise from the separate parts, the book takes trouble to root the theory of emotion in the science of how the brain works in the opening chapter. Six chapters get into the definition of emotional intelligence while another six chapters (parts three and four) look to offer guidance on how you might use the concept. The final two chapters get into why the effort of employing the theories of the book will take effort, part of which is a cost related to learning. The five sections of the book are these:

Part One: The Emotional Brain (Chapters 1 and 2)

Part Two: Emotional Intelligence (Chapters 3 thru 8)

Part Three: Emotional Intelligence Applied (Chapters 9 thru 11)

Part Four: Windows of Opportunity (Chapters 12 thru 14)

Part Five: Emotional Literacy (Chapters 15 and 16)

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Much useful information comes from the theories shared in this book. Better leaders and your better friends, I hope you recognize, use the quadrants of motivation in measuring their actions with awareness while getting into the five components of emotional intelligence, namely self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skill.

My selection of this book was motivated from a study of leadership styles and aiming to raise my own interpersonal skills through awareness of my emotions, moods, and the relationships of both to the people around me. My feeling is that this book provides things that help me. Whether you read the whole thing or select pieces from within to review, my recommendation is that you pick up a copy of this book and get to work on yourself. My rating is 4.0-out-of-5 stars.

Matt – Tuesday, September 18, 2018

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The memory of a life scholastic – Jean Marzollo

The writer of more than 150 books for children has died. Jean Marzollo wrote books for the Scholastic Publishing brand of education and media that has thrived through my childhood and for a long run before and after. Marzollo’s life is captured in this New York Times article from April 13, 2018.

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Ms. Marzollo passed at age 75 in New York state after a fulfilling career writing books for children. Her I SPY series of books were written in rhythm and rhyme. The notion of this trait was to “lure and excite the ear,” as Marzollo said in the biography on her website. “Children love rhythm and rhyme, and so do I.”

Marzollo 3(A book in the I SPY series)

While many of the books by Marzollo were accompanied by images or illustrations with collaborators such as Walter Wick, the I SPY series that began in the early 1990s also led to other works.

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Per the piece in The New York Times, Marzollo became editor of Let’s Find Out magazine in 1972. The monthly magazine for kindergartners led to Marzollo’s first book in 1978, Close Your Eyes (illustrated by Susan Jeffers). The book was about a boy having trouble falling asleep. Other I SPY books really cemented Marzollo‘s reputation.

Marzollo 4(A book in the I SPY series)

The book In 1492 is a biographical book for kids that describes the first voyage of Christopher Columbus into the new world. The point here is to show that Marzollo‘s literary themes for kids ranged from the fanciful to factual, words used in The New York Times article.

Marzollo 6(The book In 1492 by Jean Marzollo)

Jean Marzollo lived a life that aimed to educate children. Her recent passing at 75 years of age, while sad, reminds us that she left us with much of a fanciful yet factual world that educated children and adults alike in the concept of raising the literacy of children. There is much to respect and remember in this life’s aim to inspire a love for reading and literacy.

Matt – Friday, April 20, 2018

Book review: ‘Three Cups of Deceit’ pours a tale of betrayal in education and charity

Jon Krakaeur is one of my favorite writers. I came upon his writings after the age of 25-years, wherein his sense of adventure and independent idealism struck me as honest and relatable. It is through this lens that the betrayal of trust exposed in Three Cups of Deceit: How Greg Mortenson, Humanitarian Hero, Lost His Way resonated within me a sense of disappointment and anger after reading the detail of possibility lost.

Greg Mortenson is shown in Three Cups of Deceit to be a cheat, a swindler, a and a dishonest profiteer with little management skill or integrity. Mortenson had been nominated for the Nobel Peace Prize based on his work in building schools and funding the operation of schools in Pakistan and Afghanistan as director and chief fundraiser for the Central Asia Institute.  The idea and potential of this organization is unique in its ability to bring literacy to a population not adequately educated.

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Quoting from a New Yorker article published at the time Three Cups of Deceit was published:

“[Krakaeur] quotes former C.A.I. employees who are scathing in their criticism of Mortenson, including board members who resigned in disgust. According to Krakaeur, in 2009, C.A.I. spent 1.7 million dollars to promote Mortenson’s books, taking out full-page ads in publications like the New York Times, and chartering private planes for him to attend speaking events.”

Mortenson had published the books Three Cups of Tea: One Man’s Mission to Promote Peace – One School at a Time and Stones into Schools: Promoting Peace with Education in Afghanistan and Pakistan with ghost-writers, pocketing the profits from the book sales. In Three Cups of Deceit, Krakauer argues with testimony that many of the reported facts in Three Cups of Tea and Stones into Schools are untrue fabrications that never occurred. The program Pennies for Peace is debunked in Three Cups of Deceit after having raised much money through the efforts of educated children in the United States and elsewhere.

Like with many of books written by Jon Krakaeur, Three Cups of Deceit includes Greg Mortenson as a central heroic figure first fighting for an idealistic pursuit and then going astray. The degree of nobility within the character has varied from one Krakaeur book to another, with Mortenson showing us a noble idea while never coming across as honest or particularly leader-like. The details here were distinct enough from other Krakauer books to hold my interest for the length of the work.

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I was not overwhelmingly impressed by new journalism in this piece, though I acknowledge wholeheartedly the newsworthiness of the material. I feel the betrayal that underpinned the subject matter in the book. That Mortenson chose not to respond within the framework of the book was disappointing to me. My overall rating lands at a 3.0-stars out of 5 stars.

Matt – Tuesday, February 20, 2018

Grieving as Literacy from San Diego

We at Matt Lynn Digital sometimes aim to discuss childhood literacy here with our blog. Many times this takes the form of discussing books that we like, authors that have inspired us, or trends in the profession. Today, we are inspired by the notion of a second-grader from southern California that has something to offer about coping with loss.

Today’s story is that of grieving for 7-year-old Noah Orion from Del Mar Hills Academy near San Diego, California. Thanks to this piece from The San Diego Tribune in California, we are introduced to a primary-aged child who, thanks to an idea with his father (Harley Orion) had taken to writing and drawing pictures of his thoughts after losing his mother to cancer.

As reporter Pam Kragen and photographer Nelvin C. Cepeda looked to tell us in their piece from February 2, 2018, the original notion of this journal was to serve as a positive means of channeling positive memories of mother Sandy Orion for 7-year-old Noah and his 5-year-old sister, Naomi Orion. Sandy Orion had died of cancer, and the remaining Orions still had living to do.

Grieving 2(Harley Orion with Noah and Naomi)

The family came up with the idea of finding a way to pay that thought process forward. As indicated by Kragen in her news piece:

“Now, Noah and his father, Harley Orion of Carmel Valley, are planning to turn that germ of an idea into a professionally printed booklet that can be used by other children going through hard times. They’ve lined up more than 100 investors through an Indiegogo.com campaign and half of all profits will go toward cancer research.”

Harley and Sandy Orion first chose not to share details of the cancer diagnosis with their children until the physical symptoms of the disease manifested itself in ways that could not be concealed. Their choice was to share the prognosis honestly, which in theory would allow the kids to cope on terms that were age appropriate.

The publishing of the journal from the hand of Noah will take the name Noah’s Good Days, Bad Days Journal. More than 100 investors are supporting the publishing project, with half of all profits said to go toward cancer research.

Grieving 3(Noah Orion looking at a journal entry from when his mother, Sandy Orion, was in poor health).

According to the news account, the plan is to sell paperback books to the public for $12 sometime in March. Our point at Matt Lynn Digital in sharing this story is that literacy is not only about reading and writing, which this book promotes. The idea is that reading literacy also promotes an emotional literacy and resiliency. Again, from the news piece:

“People have a lot of opinions about the effects of grief on children, but most agree that the first few years after a loss like this are critical to the trajectory of their lives,” [Harley Orion] said. “Losing a parent is always going to be a major event in your life, but it doesn’t have to change who you are or prevent you from having a wonderful life.”

Matt – Sunday, February 4, 2018

Behind children’s literature with Paddington, Rosie and Jim, and the Lore and Language of Schoolchildren

In 2017, the world lost figures of substance in children’s literature. We take this moment to remember the folks that helped us meet A Bear Called Paddington, the lovable dolls Rosie and Jim, and a folklorist who, with her husband, brought us The Oxford Dictionary of Nursery Rhymes and The Lore and Language of Schoolchildren.

Michael Bond created the character Paddington, who the world first met when the book A Bear Called Paddington was published in 1958. Paddington We lost Bond in June of 2017. In the New York Times’ sharing of this news, we learned of warm feelings from the publication.

“Certainly the character participated in some typical British activities in his books. They included London theater, a cricket match, a visit to a waxworks museum, a riding competition and antiques shopping on Portobello Road. Paddington also had a known predilection for marmalade sandwiches. But most important, he is unfailingly polite with a strong sense of morality, and he always tries to do the right thing.” Anita Gates

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A second live action movie in the Paddington universe, namely Paddington 2, releases in late 2017 or early 2018 for much of the United States.

Pat Hutchins gained recognition early on for Rosie’s Walk, which first introduces us to the characters that would inhabit the british television programming for Rosie and Jim. We lost Ms. Hutchins in November after a battle with cancer.

Children 3(Rosie’s Walk by Pat Hutchins)

The characters Rosie and Jim are described by the following Internet Movie Database descriptions, which again gives us a quite proper insight into a British sensibility when discussing children’s literature.

“Rosie and Jim are two rag dolls that magically come to life when no-one is looking. They explore different aspects of Great Britain as they travel along the canal network aboard the narrow-boat “Ragdoll” with the boat’s owner.” IMDB

Children 4(The characters Rosie and Jim)

Iona Opie joined her husband Peter as a folklorist and collector of children’s literature. We lost Ms. Opie in late October, though her influence in research is felt with The Oxford Dictionary of Nursery Rhymes and The Lore and Language of Schoolchildren.

The Oxford Dictionary of Nursery Rhymes offers “over 500 rhymes, songs, nonsense jingles, and lullabies traditionally handed down to young children,” according to the book listing in the opening paragraph of this blog.

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The Lore and Language book is aimed at adults and seeks to leave “the nursery, with its assortment of parent-approved entertainments, to observe and investigate the day-to-day creative intelligence and activities of children”.  The themes within aim to “bring to life the rites and rhymes, jokes and jeers, laws, games, and secret spells” of children in making language a real and living thing that parents can share with their kids.

Children 6(Iona Opie, left, Pat Hutchins, center, and Michel Bond)

Literacy in general, and the subject of children’s literacy in the fuller context, has taken a sad turn with the loss of three influential members of an important club this year. With this post of love, Lynn and I aim to remember a trio of masters. It was also in the discussion of how to purchase for a recently born member of our family for the holidays that this theme takes on greater meaning for Lynn and I.

Matt – Saturday, December 23, 2017

Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood made its’ U.S. network debut on February 19, 1968

Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood made its’ U.S. network debut on February 19, 1968. The program made a run on television that lasted more than 30-years. The impact of the show remains today, as we mark the 49th anniversary of the debut.

The focus of Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood was to teach preschool kids aged 2 to 5 about respect, responsibility, and self-esteem. Common Sense Media adds more regarding the show’s conduct:

The series uses music, make believe, and everyday tasks to illustrate kid-friendly themes like honesty, overcoming fears, and being a good friend. Field trips expose viewers to how common products are made, and the host’s visits with his neighbors demonstrate how their jobs benefit the community. Occasionally the show explores sensitive subjects like divorce or the loss of a loved one, but it’s always done in a responsible manner that’s appropriate for kids.

A close friend of Matt Lynn Digital lives near the airport. Our airport friend came across an airing recently and asked if any friends with kids are in the habit of watching this anymore. In other words, is Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood still relevant? The feedback was interesting:

One parent found the show too slow paced for kids nowadays. Another said no, that kids are too smart for the show nowadays and would be bored to tears. Yet another indicated that her son had watched the show until aging out of the target age for the program, yet he remembered watching Barney & Friends more than Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood.

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A fourth parent indicated that their kids saw the show “once or twice…it’s amazing to see how they were mesmerized by [Fred Rogers’] voice.” Another indicated that her oldest daughter loved the show. Still another said this:

“I think kids should watch Mr. Rogers. It definitely calms children down. My son thought he wanted to be an opera singer because of the show.”

While new episodes ended in 2001 for Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood, our sister-in-law mentioned the series remained available on Netflix for awhile. Multiple parents pointed to an animated program that grew from Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood beginning in 2012 named Daniel Tiger’s Neighborhood.

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That a show would air for kids that addresses a responsible, nurturing sensibility themed on manners and demonstrating respect, responsibility, and self-esteem makes me happy for humanity. The calm effect it has tends to foster something that can be lost in models like Batman, Superman, Star Wars, Ghostbusters, Wonder Woman, or the rest.

Remember the main show made its debut 49-years ago. Check out its animated offspring if you have kids. Cultural literacy and other factors recommend programming like Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood, which made its’ U.S. network debut on February 19, 1968.

Matt – Sunday, February 19, 2017

Elie Wiesel’s “Night” is psychologically graphic and necessary

Elie Wiesel’s Night was an emotionally difficult book to read. The psychological torture of Wiesel’s experience, and so many others like him that had it as bad or worse (not sure what might be worse … American slavery seems at least similar in context and cruelty). That this happened during the lifetime of people I grew up loving brings this particular account and atrocity closer to home; that is likely about anchoring.

The legitimate nightmare and anguish of Elie Wiesel’s experience is psychologically graphic and horrifying. Descriptions including psychologically graphic and horrifying make this book both a necessary and compelling reading. It’s a bit disappointing that my seventh-grade class had us read Seth McEvoy’s Batteries Not Included. This isn’t to diminish McEvoy’s effort; my point is that seventh grade seems like a reasonable time to expose children to questions involving historical and emotional literacy.

For illuminating something for scrutiny that needs to be seen, this book earns 4.5-stars. That the brutality indicated by Wiesel in Night occurred really spells out the crime of what Erik Larson wrote about in his book In the Garden of Beasts.

Matt – Monday, February 6, 2017